Clean The Garage

So, last time we talked about what a garage looks like when we keep shoving garbage into it as well as gold for years and suddenly look at it and wonder -- what happened? We figure out at some point that we need to declutter and it looks overwhelming but we have to take it a step at a time and tackle it so that we can throw away the garbage and find the gold.

What I want to talk about now is the idea that we sometimes take on other people’s garbage. By using this garage metaphor, I don’t know anyone who puts a sign in their yard saying --- Free garage space! Park your cars! Pile your junk and give me your rotten stinky food! I’ll take care of it all for you! For FREE! Really, seriously people!!! Dump in this space here and don’t stop dumpin!

Yet, lots of people are running around thinking about other stuff that someone else had dumped in their brain. Past relationships, childhood stuff, jobs, money, news... and not one ounce of it is their own stuff. It doesn’t fit their life and they know it but keep thinkin it.

So the idea is to close the garage from all the other dumpers. It’s cut off, no more. CLOSE      THE          GARAGE           DOOR.....

and then, filter out what’s been left behind.

1. Forgive and let go. Forgiving is about fore going the past and giving up hanging onto it. Doesn’t condone the behavior and doesn’t mean that you keep letting them come and dump in your space soooo.. Give up the past. Nothing, absolutely nothing is going to make the past go away except your willingness to let it go. And NO MORE DUMPING!

2. Set boundaries. Boundaries are safety zones for your Self. Trust yourself and know that you have to take care of yourself if someone keeps dumping toxic waste in your house. If someone has a bad attitude or if you feel pressured by the way they act, if you feel anxious, you need to stop it the same way as if they were piling bags of garbage in your living room. You mean to tell me that you would just leave their junk there?                                                                                                                                               If it’s been going on for a while, then you know you can’t fix it because they are the only ones who can...you hanging onto it hasn’t worked so far and guess what? It won’t ever work. Trust yourself to know what you need to do. And if the two of you disagree after working on it for a long time, then that’s ok. Trust your boundaries the same way you have a door to your house. It’s not open to everyone or everything. Trust your schnoz to smell the toxins and get out! 

3. Find your balance... answer the most important question in all of your process    WHAT DO I NEED? Not what do I need to do? but what do I need --- right here, right now. And if all those bits of garbage that you have collected from other people no longer serve you, let them go. If you are living in integrity and are a good person and there’s been all this conflict clutter in your head. Weed it out!

Make a list of what you need. Start with the basics. For example if you realize, I need to feel happy. Ok, what are 3 actions you can take to be happy today. Simple actions and see what shows up in your answer.

Figure out what has been dumped in your garage by others who are not healthy for you and weed it out! What action can you take today to let something go that someone else keeps throwing at you? What do you need to do to get them to stop throwing and most of all what do you do to stop catching it!

Start from there, and most of all....KEEP THE GARAGE DOOR CLOSED! It is no longer open for everyone else’s shtuff!!! Walk away from the door...walk away from the stench. Get a big ol’ strong garbage bag and start throwing all those negative thoughts away! Own only your own, but find out what your own thoughts are, they are your gold.