Balance Denver
Poll
More Balance
by Elaine Clark, WiseLife Consulting
This year we watched our daughters have birthdays that are major markers for their youthful energy and a bit scary to the parents: 16, 18, and 21. For me, it's not so bothering that she is turning 21 but where did the 21 years go for me? Where are all those people and plans now? When I was 21, another 21 years seemed so far away and full of possibility. And now, the years have gone by and I'm pretty excited about where I am, but WOW! What will the next 21 years bring?
This is where BALANCE is so very necessary to discover, choose, and maintain. (I mean, really, 16, 18, and 21...didn’t we deserve to freak out a little?) My own sense of BALANCE can tell me whether the thought process is working for me and my deepest intention.
One of my deepest intentions for having BALANCE in my life is Peace. What is yours? Not a goal that can change with the winds or be affected by what outside influences show up. But true intention, the fuel that feeds all we do, that keeps us going.
If life is not so good or there is a place out of BALANCE, you may not even realize that your true intention is something like survival, or defending, or getting even, or there is never enough, or being stuck in expectations etc. etc...something that actually leads to feeling lousy in the long run. There can not exist a sense of Peace if the deepest part driving you is in a negative state.
And as I always offer, the plan sounds simple, but it isn’t always easy! Obstacles show up to test our resolve, other people may not want peace the same way or at all, they may have no intention BALANCE and so they try to set us off course. They may not be doing it with a plan to sabotage us, it may simply be their way of functioning and coping but we can't let their upset get us off of our journey and commitment.
If you get into the upset by what others are doing, then we know your BALANCE is off kilter and the only person who can get it back on track is yourself! It's your responsibility, either by not buying into what the other is selling or by taking responsibility that you have gotten into your own Reactive Choice and need to clean it up.
This is where BALANCE is so very necessary to discover, choose, and maintain. (I mean, really, 16, 18, and 21...didn’t we deserve to freak out a little?) My own sense of BALANCE can tell me whether the thought process is working for me and my deepest intention.
One of my deepest intentions for having BALANCE in my life is Peace. What is yours? Not a goal that can change with the winds or be affected by what outside influences show up. But true intention, the fuel that feeds all we do, that keeps us going.
If life is not so good or there is a place out of BALANCE, you may not even realize that your true intention is something like survival, or defending, or getting even, or there is never enough, or being stuck in expectations etc. etc...something that actually leads to feeling lousy in the long run. There can not exist a sense of Peace if the deepest part driving you is in a negative state.
And as I always offer, the plan sounds simple, but it isn’t always easy! Obstacles show up to test our resolve, other people may not want peace the same way or at all, they may have no intention BALANCE and so they try to set us off course. They may not be doing it with a plan to sabotage us, it may simply be their way of functioning and coping but we can't let their upset get us off of our journey and commitment.
If you get into the upset by what others are doing, then we know your BALANCE is off kilter and the only person who can get it back on track is yourself! It's your responsibility, either by not buying into what the other is selling or by taking responsibility that you have gotten into your own Reactive Choice and need to clean it up.
Adapted from Elaine’s upcoming book “It’s All Good: Dialogues on Not-Perfect-Living Journeys” © Elaine Clark, M.A. WiseLife Consulting 2008
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